If you’re ready to dive into Facebook, there are numerous books, eBooks, teleclasses, audios and videos for you to peruse. Once you are on Facebook, you’ll be able to learn and participate alongside some “old timers” and others who are considered to be experts in the social networking arena and that’s a beautiful thing. But, one thing to keep in mind when building your Facebook page and persona – is your heart.
By heart, I mean your heart line specifically. I know, it’s called Facebook but, if you’ll indulge me in the pun, in this case you’ll want to follow your HANDbook!
Most of us have two hands and each hand has its own heart line. Our heart lines tell how we love and how we want to be loved. The human condition is such that we are all motivated by a need for love. Sure, we desire passionate and intimate love, but on a daily level, we really crave being heard and understood, don’t we?
There are four main heart line types, Strong and Silent, Passionate, Nurturer and Philosopher. You may have one type on both of your hands or you may have different heart lines on each hand.
Your heart line begins under your pinky finger and stretches horizontally across your palm, running parallel to the base of your fingers.
A heart line that begins under the pinky and runs in a straight line, stopping directly under your middle finger is a Strong and Silent heart line.
A heart line that begins under the pinky and curves up to the base of the middle finger is a Passionate heart line.
A heart line that begins under the pinky and runs in a straight line, stopping directly under the index finger is a Philosopher heart line.
A heart line that begins under the pinky and curves up to the base of the index finger is a Nurturer heart line.
You can tell from the titles alone what these heart lines denote about the holder. Of course, we’re all multi-dimensional beings and we may be working hard to attract a Passionate partner, so we’re doing our best to cover up our Strong and Silent ways! Clearly, there are many discussions that do occur about acknowledging and using our heart lines to be the best possible version of ourselves but right now let’s talk about ways that each of these heart line types may pursue their Facebook experiences!
Strong and Silent heart lines are likely to be later adapters to Facebook and other social networking endeavors. They cherish the relationships they do have and honor the people in their lives by doing things for them. They may be wary about building meaningful relationships using the computer and be searching for a way to demonstrate who they are without having to TALK (or write) about themselves all the time. Strong and Silent heart line types who make their way onto Facebook (and they will if they are in a career that calls for it, or in “real-life” relationships with people who encourage them) will start out as observers – learning the ins and outs by watching others whom they know in “real-life.”
As they build their profile the Strong and Silent will ensure that they have a dividing line between their personal and on-life persona and will be most likely to leave out a great deal of personal detail when creating their profile. They are least likely to add pictures of themselves and will do so only grudgingly. Their profile picture rarely changes. They will be sure to have their security setting at a high level (at least at first) and will wait a very long time before accepting new friend requests. Over time the S&S will become adept at using this technology and enjoy watching their friends gather and converse. They will share tips and resources to their close-knit group of friends and they will be steadfast in maintaining the relationships they are developing. They will, however, find it frustrating when people who have RSVP’d ‘yes’ to events don’t show up and they will likely keep a list in their head of who those people are.
Passionate heart line types are early adapters. Once they hear about Facebook they are likely to dive right in. They have funny quotes and passion driven language throughout their profile. Passionates cherish the opportunity to meet new people and to be seen – they are eager to learn about new things but may fizzle out if they’re not careful. When a Passionate heart line type is pursuing their social networking strategy they join every site they can find and then fiddle with each. As they build their presence they are quick to determine what is and what isn’t working for them and will easily drop out of sites that don’t interest them. Passionates may accept every group and event invitation that comes their way – however, they may not participate actively in any.
As they build their profile, the Passionate will understand the benefit of remaining front and center and will create juicy, funny and interesting articles, videos and status updates that are meant to inform and entertain their growing list of friends. Without even trying a Passionate will build a circle of friends quickly. When it comes to their profile picture, the Passionate is clever and enjoys tweaking their picture as the season requires (Santa hats at Christmastime, Margarita Glass for Cinco de Mayo, etc.) In addition, Passionates have large photo galleries that show off their passions – whether it is public speaking, raising bulldogs or spending time sailing! People are quickly drawn to the Passionate personality and enjoy checking out their ever-evolving Facebook page.
Philosopher heart line types are interested in the whole “Facebook phenomenon.” They’re most likely to read a few books or do some on-line research on the best way to build a Facebook presence before diving in to creating their profile. Philosophers know the names of the go-to guys and gals in the world of Facebook and ask such good and straightforward questions – they quickly become friends with these folks. Philosophers cherish the opportunity to learn knew things and to discuss what they are learning – especially about people. They let their natural curiosity be their guide when it comes to making friends and you’ll be delighted by their questions and interest. Philosophers most likely will join groups related to one or two specific interests where they can learn and share expertise as active participants.
As they build their profile, the Philosopher will refer to their notes, understanding the benefit of presenting a very specific profile. They will follow the guidelines and information they learned while studying and will have a page that clearly lets you know who they are and why they’re on Facebook in the first place. Their photos are clearly broken down into specific topics and are often tied to their particular area of expertise. They update their status with useful tips and an occasional quirky remark or inside joke.
Nurturer heart line types are drawn to the idea of making friends and are curious, yet somewhat cautious in creating their Facebook page. They are the most likely to worry about offending someone with their political standing or even their favorite TV show. They may leave those things off altogether. Nurturers ask close “real-life” friends for insight on the best way to create a page and spend several days or months tweaking their information to make sure it’s neat and friendly to anyone who stops by. They are tempted to put a picture of their favorite child, animal, flower, cartoon or other avatar in place of their face on their page. They are likely to check several times a day to see how many friend requests they’ve received and how many have been accepted. Over time, they will find a rhythm and not take it personally if others take a while to add them as friends.
Nurturers are likely to add every application that comes their way – passing drinks, poking, having snowball fights and more – because they don’t want to offend the sender. It’s important for Nurturers to know that the sender doesn’t know if you ignored their request or not – so feel free to ignore and save space on your home page. Nurturers update their status with heartfelt quotes and leave messages on their friends’ walls regularly – letting them know they care. Nurturers populate their photos with pictures of family, pets and others whom they hold dear. If they have attended conferences and seminars, they post pictures of themselves hugging close one person at a time rather than a “group” shot (although they love being in the group shots!)
Obviously, this is a “top line” review of the four main heart lines and the way they are likely to use Facebook. Each of us has a little bit of each element within and may be working to broaden our heart-line horizons. Just remember, your hands tell you the best way to honor and be your best self – so don’t fake it – just be you (that’s what REALLY brings you friends on Facebook and in “real life”.)
For more reading about heartlines you can visit:
http://awakenyoursoul.wordpress.com/2008/12/08/561/ (Finding Love through Palmistry)
http://awakenyoursoul.wordpress.com/2009/01/09/592/ (palmistry and heart lines)