Tag Archives: boundaries

Boundaries, A Palmistry Perspective – What’s Just Right?

My dear, sweet, amazing friend Dan turned 40 this past weekend.

Although I hadn’t seen him in more than a year I was full of anticipation about attending his birthday dinner.  Dan and I met around 10 years ago when we were both working as IT recruiters at a company located in Tyson’s Corner.  Dan was a great recruiter and turned out to be a good friend.  You know, those folks that you meet and right off the bat you feel like you’ve known them forever?  Dan and I were like that.  It was easy to be friends and competitors (often we were vying for the most hires on the recruiter’s leader board in the office).  We enjoyed one another’s company, had similar sensibilities about important stuff like dogs and really couldn’t be more different when it came to other stuff – like keeping offices neat and tidy (he’s neat, I’m not).

After the meal was completed and we were gathering to look over his cool birthday gifts and give him a little ribbing about needing reading glasses someone brought up the fact that I read hands for a living.  

Having an unusual and an intriguing job is a lot of fun and frankly I’m mostly excited about the fact that I can take my job tools with me everywhere I go (my eyes and my brain).  I do my best to educate people about the wonders of their hands without lecturing or turning it into a caricature of the “seaside practitioners” described by Fred Gettings in his 1966 treatise, “Palmistry Made Easy.” 

Within seconds people were holding their hands up around the dining room table for a look-see.  I told them I didn’t predict their future — they were in charge of their free will and destiny, but that I’d be happy to have a look.  Dan’s dad, who was sitting beside me, held out his left hand and said, “I’ve been told there’s something unusual in this hand.  Do you see anything unusual?”  And I grinned from ear to ear.  With a big smile I assured him he did have an unusual gift in his hand — a Simian Crease!  What a kick to see it right there in the flesh!  (These are really rare gifts and I’ve seen only a handful in my entire career. No pun intended.)

We talked about his intensity and his ability to focus single-mindedly and how that might possibly affect those around him.  Especially those he loved.  He said he didn’t think he was particularly single-minded however I think a few others around the table seemed to feel that they felt him to be!

Overall I had the pleasure of giving brief reviews to a dozen of the gathered guests.  It was truly a joy to share this skill with others and give them a place of deeper understanding of themselves and those they associate with and love. 

Being in the moment is so important when you do work like mine.  I used to feel that I had to guard myself and my skill of hand reading – making it hard to access and therefore creating a perceived value.  But the value is the person who is present for the reading.  I agree that the reading I had changed my life, and I do believe that when I get to work one-on-one with someone and help them formulate a plan for enhancing their relationships, their communication style or their business related to their life purpose using the blueprint in their hand — the value IS priceless.  But I’m not going to hide the light from those who are ready to have a look-see.  Being able to share is my fun.  

For some others, those with lots of water in their hands, a life school of love or really flexible thumbs, for instance, I’d encourage you to create boundaries and find ways to not give away what you do for free under any circumstances.  

For me, the opposite is true.  I’ve got boundaries out the wazoo — tons of fire and earth in my hands – keeping me from creating intimacy if I’m not careful.  I have really stiff thumbs and a strong and straight Saturn finger. My Jupiter finger is always on the look out for those that are trying to encroach on my territory.  All these conspire to keep  me distant and aloof.  Which is fine as far as that goes — but I was wondering why I was feeling isolated and a little lonely?  Why people didn’t “get” what I did and want more of it.  Hmmm.  Now I know, I needed to go agains the conventional wisdom and share more openly, knowing that I’m not going to have a problem holding my boundaries and procedures in the long run. 

I’m finding all kinds of ways to share what I do – - one of them is being open to interviews — like this one at Betty Confidential!  I was so excited to be interviewed by Julie Ryan Evans — I can hardly stand it.  Trust me, if you’ve got tight boundaries – finding ways to open up is an amazing and cathartic gift to give yourself before the year ends!

Curious about how knowing what’s in your hands can help you change your world?  Why not join our free palmistry Teleclass tonight – -(november 11) from 7-8pm EST.  It’s called “What is Hand Analysis Anyway? Using the Power of Your Hands to Change The World!”    I’d love to have you!