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Appreciation – Making Your Heart Sing

December 14 – Appreciate What’s the one thing you have come to appreciate most in the past year? How do you express gratitude for it? (Author: Victoria Klein)

Appreciate.  Appreciate.  Appreciate.

So many things to appreciate and when you start to enumerate them or gush over them they become, what? banal? over stated.  over done.

In 2010 I’ve learned to appreciate the challenges.  The fights-against.  The inner arguments and the less-than-perfects.  All within myself.

In those moments of frustration and yelling and banging my head and fists against walls (literally and figuratively) I’ve managed to take some stock and learn something.  I’m an all or nothing gal.  I’m looking forward to living a full and vibrant and funny life – that includes me going all out and all in and that means sometimes getting angry and sanctimonious and snarly.  Because in those moments, I learn and I embrace and laugh more loudly.

I appreciate the quirks of being human, even when I most want to drop them from the top of the Empire State Building and watch them splatter along the sidewalks (with no one below of course — these are my quirks and I wouldn’t want them to hurt anyone else).

I appreciate all the other stuff too, of course, every day I appreciate more my sense of smell.  Leaning into a whiff of honeysuckle or rose during a brisk walk, the scent of mulchy, moldy, crunched up leaves and the crisp crackle in the woods as the pressure drops.

I appreciate knowing the energy is all connected, the wind, the heat, the cosmos — is wafting from me to you and back again.  That is pretty freaking awesometastic.

I appreciate hands. I’m grateful for the roadmap they’ve given me to compassion and clarity.  I appreciate the wonder they provide not just for me, but for everyone who steps into the land of the hand.  It’s so powerful and I’m in so much awe.

I appreciate making up words and the ability my brain has to take me on far-off-fantastical-journeys and then plop me back down on my butt at my desk.

I appreciate the clients that make my heart sing and I appreciate the balls I’m growing to clear out the lovely but not-heart-singing ones.  I truly appreciate clearing the clutter and muck in my life and my business and my heart.

I appreciate the ability to (finally) make friends and trust the process, without fear that they’ll abandon me, find another friend or find me annoying, clingy or odd. (yes, I’m all of those but I’ve learned true friends are okay with it all — I don’t need to fake it anymore).

As I  near the end of the year and the end of my 45th year, I can say that I appreciate me.

11 Things to Ditch

#reverb10 Continues with …

December 11 – 11 Things

What are 11 things your life doesn’t need in 2011? How will you go about eliminating them? How will getting rid of these 11 things change your life?

(Author: Sam Davidson)

1) playing small.  (this is a big one, and to be honest, I’ve found that spending less time on ‘the plan’ for eliminating and more time moving forward is the key to success)

2) 10 pounds.  Dr. Oz says that the first 10 pounds are the ones that make the biggest difference in our overall health, vitality and longevity.  How?  For me the simple formula is the best – eat less, move more (thanks Patti). For me that means logging my food and exercise every day.  And weighing myself every day. Sure it goes against conventional wisdom, but I’m an “it’s there so I’ll eat it” gal and this process helps me remain conscious of what I’m eating and why.

3) Irrational fears.  Okay, now that I wrote this, I realize that most fears are irrational.  So I’m going to do my best to banish them, by focusing on what’s real.  And talking to myself the way I would talk to a friend.

4) Comparisonitis.  I wrote about this in February of this year, so it’s more of a long-term goal.  In order to move forward and play bigger I need to stop worrying about what everyone else is doing.  Right?  How?  Really – your ideas are welcome.  The more out of the ordinary, the better please.  I have a sneaking suspicion that the more I focus on being myself and accomplishing my goals the less time I’ll have to obsess.  But that’s just a theory.

5) Inhumane food.  I’ve been working on this for two years now.  But I’m lazy (see #2) when it comes to food sometimes.  However, my inner guidance says that to be the change I wish to see in the world, it wouldn’t be such a bad idea to be diligent.  I’m working on eliminating food that is raised, slaughtered and processed inhumanely.  No, I’m not ready to go vegetarian or vegan, and I’m okay with that.  However, it’s time to stop eating food that supports a crappy system.

6) Whining.  When I whine I’m giving more energy to the schtuff I don’t want or don’t like.  So it’s time to hunker down and start changing things or start focusing on more of what I want.  If I may toot my own horn here for a minute – I’ve made HUGE strides in this department over the past 10 years, but I’m no slacker – there’s always somewhere further to go.

7) Animal ignorance.  In 2011 I’ll be creating programs to help teach kids and their parents how to care for animals in a loving and humane way.  I’ll be contributing to causes who support this end and I’ll be volunteering my time where they’ll have me to help foster healthy relationships between people and animals.

8) Debt.  I know my debt collectors are happy to hear this, and they’re probably miffed that this is #8 on the list, but considering the hole that I’m starting in, I figure it’s as good a time as any to declare publicly that I’ll be ditching debt for good in 2011.

9) Clutter.  Oh my how clutter has been my friend.  I’ve spent 2010 clearing closets and drawers of clothes.  I’ve made headway on the stacks of paper and half-written stories surrounding my desk top.  I’ve freecycled, paper-back-swapped and sold more than 50 pounds of books, but still, there’s room to go.

10.)  Sleeplessness.  They say I have to banish the animals from the bedroom to accomplish this.  I’m searching for another way.

11) Rushing.  I’m rushing to finish this so I can race to the shower so I can arrive to teach my 11 am class in Old Town.  I’d like to end that once and for all.

Good prompt!

Party!

December 9 – Party Prompt: Party. What social gathering rocked your socks off in 2010? Describe the people, music, food, drink, clothes, shenanigans. (Author: Shauna Reid)

There are a lot of fun memories in the past year.  We managed to travel more than we did in 2009.  We laughed more and beat ourselves up less.  (By we, I mean us, in my collective household).  So in and of itself, I’d like to think of this as a year of parties.  Not partying, but parties.

However, I had more fun than I can remember in a long time at the wedding of my long-time friend Dan and his husband Jimmy.

Michael and I flew to New England and drove out to the coast – to stay at the Rockport Inn – on the eve of Hurricane Earl’s imminent arrival.

I admit, I was tired and worn out by Labor Day weekend.  I was sort of dreading packing a bag, getting on a plane and dealing with gale force winds and torrential downpours.  I had visions of being evacuated in my head.  But we’d bought the tickets and reserved the room and we figured it would be a worse feeling for the betrothed, so why not go and support them?

The wedding was beautiful and meaningful and full of love and joy and tears of happiness and memories and commitment.  It was a blast.  The food was awesome, the seaport was gorgeous and the grooms were as happy as I’d ever seen them.

We sat with joyful people we’d never met – running the age spectrum from single digits to 70s and we learned a lot.  I laughed at stories told about my old friend and I found deep healing in a conversation  over a book and its meaning.

There were boas and masks and loud music and there was plenty of time to watch, through rain-drenched floor to ceiling windows as Earl skipped the seaport of Gloucester and went on his merry way.

The entire weekend was a party and a celebration and being part of it, letting go of my fears of being out of my element and at the mercy of the elements was just the salve I needed to begin the autumn of the year.

What’s on tap for next year?

December 9 – Party Prompt: Party. What social gathering rocked your socks off in 2010? Describe the people, music, food, drink, clothes, shenanigans. (Author: Shauna Reid)

There are a lot of fun memories in the past year. We managed to travel more than we did in 2009. We laughed more and beat ourselves up less. (By we, I mean us, in my collective household). So in and of itself, I’d like to think of this as a year of parties. Not partying, but parties.

However, I had more fun than I can remember in a long time at the wedding of my long-time friend Dan and his husband Jimmy.

Michael and I flew to New England and drove out to the coast – to stay at the Rockport Inn – on the eve of Hurricane Earl’s imminent arrival.

I admit, I was tired and worn out by Labor Day weekend. I was sort of dreading packing a bag, getting on a plane and dealing with gale force winds and torrential downpours. I had visions of being evacuated in my head. But we’d bought the tickets and reserved the room and we figured it would be a worse feeling for the betrothed, so why not go and support them?

The wedding was beautiful and meaningful and full of love and joy and tears of happiness and memories and commitment. It was a blast. The food was awesome, the seaport was gorgeous and the grooms were as happy as I’d ever seen them.

We sat with joyful people we’d never met – running the age spectrum from single digits to 70s and we learned a lot. I laughed at stories told about my old friend and I found deep healing in a conversation over a book and its meaning.

There were boas and masks and loud music and there was plenty of time to watch, through rain-drenched floor to ceiling windows as Earl skipped the seaport of Gloucester and went on his merry way.

The entire weekend was a party and a celebration and being part of it, letting go of my fears of being out of my element and at the mercy of the elements was just the salve I needed to begin the autumn of the year.

What’s on tap for next year?

Beautifully Different: #Reverb10

December 8 – Beautifully Different. Think about what makes you different and what you do that lights people up. Reflect on all the things that make you different – you’ll find they’re what make you beautiful. (Author: Karen Walrond)

Woman's Hands with Rose
Creative Commons License photo credit: Stephen K. Willi

Oh my.  I’m so glad I decided to meet these prompts head on with no more than 15 minutes from reading it to publishing.  Because I’ve been thinking about THIS topic for so long and have been loathe to put anything in writing.

Just like the Universe to give us a kick in the pants when we most need it, eh?

I’m different because:

  • I don’t want people to hire me because I have all the answers, I want them to hire me because I can guide them through fear to their own answers;
  • I talk to animals and don’t find it odd that they talk back;
  • I know that everything has equal meaning if I’m willing to listen and stop judging;
  • I’ve been unmarried twice and now that I’ve found the man of my dreams I don’t intend to get married again;
  • I’ve never stopped trying to change the world for the better;
  • I know that one person REALLY CAN make a difference;
  • I’m adopted;
  • I’m from New Jersey;
  • I’m a sorority girl;
  • I’ve longed for connection but built many walls to keep me from it;
  • I read hands;
  • I talk.  A LOT.;
  • I embarrass easily;
  • I’d really like to be out of debt completely, forever;
  • I’m never done learning;
  • I hate cucumbers, and coconut, and bananas;
  • I’m on a daily quest for balance;
  • I’m short and my pants are always too long;
  • My hair is ridiculously straight and yet there’s tons of it;
  • I’m an ex-smoker who would probably have another cigarette if it was possible to have just one;
  • I grew up in Mahwah;
  • I went to two colleges and still don’t have a degree (and I’m really not all that concerned about it);
  • Creating a business that merges with my purpose and my life is always on the top of my mind;
  • I’m an outgoing introvert;
  • I love the TV, and the internet, and Twitter, and blogging;
  • I’m a lousy dancer but I love dancing anyway;
  • I’m finding my voice and my courage to say what is true, always.

I’m not sure how all that plays together or really what it has to do with the manifesto for my business in 2011 that I’ve been worrying over, but, there it is – 15 minutes and a post is complete.  Thank you #reverb10!

Make: A Life in Reflection

Because there’s never enough on the plate, and because during the holiday season my head gets kefluffly and can’t focus on many of my larger writing projects, I’m participating in #reverb10 (http://www.reverb10.com/) .  I joined on Friday 12/3/10 at 5:30  pm Eastern time, so I intend to start on the 6t (Monday).  And I like Patti Digh’s take on this – responding within 15 minutes of receiving the prompt, so that’s my intention as well – to participate in the joyousness of creation and reflection without judgment.

December 6 – Make.

What was the last thing you made? What materials did you use? Is there something you want to make, but you need to clear some time for it?

(Author: Gretchen Rubin)

Milking It
Creative Commons License photo credit: JD Hancock

The last thing I made was breakfast.  Not particularly glamorous but necessary and yummy (consisting of a combination of Grape Nuts and Raisin Bran with a splash of un-sweetened Almond Milk, a cup of coffee and grapefruit juice).

In a more creative pursuit, the last thing I made was a set of hand prints with a new client.

And in a bigger picture way, the last thing I made is that which I’m making on a daily basis – a life, that (hopefully) reflects my purpose and the purposes of those I encounter.  Creating a business is a moment-by-moment pursuit and I make my living by helping others make a life that is passionate and fun and extra-ordinary.

In the last year I’ve made my business by showing up when I was scared, by writing every day, by reaching out and connecting to people that may have intimidated me and by making time for reading, laughing, knitting and walking.

What tools or materials are necessary?

1)      Belief in my truth and in the journey.

2)      A sense of humor.

3)      Like-minded people.

4)      A yoga practice

5)      A meditation practice

6)      Teachers who are wise and funny

7)      Animals and nature.

The last thing I made, and the thing I hope to say I made whenever my last breath is pulled from lungs is a life that was ever-evolving and that made a difference in the world.