and what to do about it
Are you one of the amazing women who have been brainwashed to believe that “Nothing is Impossible?”
You are if you’ve been to so many self-help, live your purpose, learn your value workshops, that you are beating yourself up for NOT making 6 figures while only working 4 hours a week.
I have the honor of talking to people every day who are willing to be vulnerable and share passions and their fears with me.
In these intimate conversations, vivacious women from 32 to 73 tell me what they WISH were true in their lives and careers.
They are seekers and light-workers and creatives and healers, they’ve already done so much work to reveal their passions and purpose. They’ve filled their hard drives with downloads and home study programs – all in the pursuit of living their passions. They are ready to leave the 9-5 behind!
But they are stuck. And a little embarrassed and a lot hurt about feeling stuck. After all they are smart and personable and passionate about their WHY!
They’re not doing anything wrong, but what they are doing to live their passions isn’t necessarily right either.
In this process, I ask “How much money are you making doing your passion/gift/creativity right now?” Often the answer is none, or that they are receiving gifts or other services in exchange.
The next question is “How much money do you want to be making?” This is where they lead with “I know nothing is impossible and I want to be making 6 figures!”
This is, usually quite a disconnect. While each conversation is focused on an individual’s desires and visions, the disconnects are eerily similar.
I’ve been there myself and I know in excruciating detail how painful this place is. It’s awful to know that you should or could make 6 figures, because your gurus told you to set the bar high, only to wake up each morning, caught in the glare of the no (or very little) income reality.
When you get so caught up in the VISION and the mantra that nothing is impossible you lose sight of the REALITY of the world you’re living in.
The practical world requires you to take specific and focused action in order to pay your practical living expenses – like rent, gas, insurance and food.
As you place your vision over the reality of your needs and wants you begin to doubt your ability to make it happen. You haven’t yet earned anything (or much) with your passion and your EGO is having a field day, reminding you of that fact.
“But!” your inner child shouts, “NOTHING is impossible if I want it enough. The Universe will show me the way.”
If that IS working for you, stop reading now and carry on. On the other hand, if you’ve been caught in the battle between your Ego and your Inner Child for longer than a week, STOP the MADNESS!
The more you carry on this debate, the harder it gets to take action. Your inner kid is sulking and your ego is acting like an annoying big sister full of “I told you so’s.”
In the meantime, you’re chained tighter to the belief that you have to keep your J.O.B. because you simply do not have what it takes to earn 6 figures while working 4 hours a week.
Your soul might love the Nothing is Impossible mantra, but your mind doesn’t buy it. Your mind believes that it is impossible to give up your job and get paid to do something you love. Your mind believes what it perceives.
You keep proving to yourself that getting paid for your passions isn’t really for you. This masquerades as:
- I’m not sure WHICH is the RIGHT Passion;
- I need more training;
- I’m overwhelmed and clearly not organized enough;
- No one wants to pay me
So you find yourself in a never-ending loop of mantras and doubts. As you sink deeper your heart hurts until it scars over and you simply walk away, mumbling that it’s not even worth it to try.
Pick an interim goal and aim for that. It might be 7 years until you really believe that you can earn six figures and work four hours a week. Which is fine!
That day will arrive if you move toward it strategically.
Your interim goal might be to earn $500 each month doing your passion while working your current job. When this becomes easy, you can up the goal, either dollars or time. Now your ego is on board, because you’ve got proof that you can do it.
Are you willing to try it? A new month is the perfect time to set a goal that challenges you but is doable!
What well-meaning mantras have been keeping you stuck? Feel free to share your comments here!